Saturday, April 6, 2013

Rock and Roll is Here to Stay

Rock 'n' roll is here to stay
Date April 07, 2010
Section(s) Generations
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
The Rolling Stones said best: "It's only rock 'n' roll, but I like it." The lyric is short, simple and dead-on. Several generations have agreed on it. Rock 'n' roll is something that has transcended time and space. It started with the likes of Buddy Holly and Little Richard. After them came The Beatles and then Led Zeppelin. While many think that young adults today don't appreciate their parents' music, that's simply not the case. Like many children whose parents came of age with the Woodstock Generation, Jessica Holloway has a thing for classic rock. It has played a huge role in the life of the 28-year-old St. Simons Island resident. "I was raised by a hippie-turned-pastor father, so we had all these great influences, like The Doors, The Beatles, The Stones," she said. But that wasn't the only type of music that Holloway picked up at home. In addition to rock 'n' roll, she listened to gospel and folk music. "We also listened to John Prine, as well. And other good folk music, like Bob Dylan. There was just a huge variety," she said. The mix helped Holloway come into her own as a musician. She plays the keyboard and sings with the local group Marshland Groove. Her performance style mimics her musical upbringing. That is, it mixes a little bit of everything. "The huge variety totally influenced the way I play music. I call it 'eclectic soul.' That's the best way I can describe it. It's my parents kind of music with a bluesy, Bonnie Raitt-ish feel to it. But I try to take a song and make it mine," she said. While she brings her individual style to her work, she thinks that old-school rock will continue to influence musicians. "I don't think that classic rock will ever die. It was the first of its kind. No one had see anything like that before. All of the pop music now is just a version of a classic," she said. Jared Kuykendall agrees. The lead singer of the local band Honey Blue says all music is an evolution. "No one has come out with a completely new type of music. It all draws from previous generations. So I would have to say there isn't a gap. The music of today is just an evolution of our parents'," he said. "Mainstream and non-mainstream musicians have influences from the generations of artists prior to them." He also thinks that pinning down the "music of today" is easier said that done. "There are what I would refer to as 'MTV artists,' like Lady Gaga, Kanye West, and The Black Eyed Peas," he said. "But there are artists that have a strong following that aren't a part of the mainstream. Some that I personally listen to are Wilco, The Avett Brothers, and Blitzen Trapper. Because of the Internet, bands whose sound does not fit in with those on mainstream radio and television have another way to find an audience." Kuykendall and Honey Blue have a lot of different influences. They draw from alt-country acts like Ryan Adams, Wilco, The Old 97's and The Jayhawks. But the group also relies heavily on the standard classic rock bands like The Beatles, Rolling Stones and Neil Young. "The Beatles and Neil Young are the two artists that my parents listened to that are the biggest influence on me. I can remember listening to 'The White Album' when I was 7 or 8 years old. At the same time I was listening to more recent artists, like MC Hammer and Michael Jackson," Kuykendall said. "The bands of my parents' generation have had a more lasting influence. I still listen to those albums today. The kind of music that was popular when I was younger only held my interest for a few years."


Boomers Reflect on Icon

Baby boomers contemplate meaning of a rock icon's milestone
Date June 27, 2012
Section(s) Generations
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
Marcia Marinello was a teenager when she first laid eyes on a baby-faced Paul McCartney and the rest of the Fab Four. The year was 1964. Marinello, then growing up in Illinois, went to one of the Beatles' first American concerts, at the Arie Crown Theater in Chicago. It is still a vivid memory for the Darien resident. "There were about 13,000 screaming kids. We were all pretty close to the stage. That time was fairly early in their career, and it was their first U.S. tour. Everyone sang the songs with them," she said. But Marinello had the rare opportunity to see the greatest rock band in history perform live not just once, but twice. She also took in their show in 1965 at Comiskey Park, then the home of the Chicago White Sox. It was a lucky thing, as the road-weary group put an end to touring in 1966. Marinello remembers the show being considerably larger than the first. "There were probably 50,000 kids or more at that concert. They did have big screens up, but the screams were so loud, nobody really heard anything. The atmosphere was so electric, you didn't need to hear very well. We were all so caught up in the moment," she said. "I went with a group of girls, and we all baked cakes and brought them to the concert for the Beatles to eat. We were so naive. I had binoculars with me to see the stage better, and I remember almost being strangled by my younger cousin who just had to see Ringo close up." At the time Marinello and her pals took in the show, all of the Beatles were in their early 20s. John Lennon and Ringo Starr - the elder members - were both 24 in 1964. McCartney was 22, and George Harrison was 21. Fast forward 48 years, and two of the Beatles have died. Lennon was murdered in 1980 and Harrison died of cancer in 2001. The other two Beatles are now in their 70s. In fact, McCartney just marked his 70th birthday June 18. Ringo Starr will ring in his 72nd on July 7. For many baby boomers like Marinello, the fact the Beatles are officially senior citizens is still a bit surreal. It seems especially hard to accept that McCartney, who was branded the "cute Beatle," is now an "old man." "It's hard to believe he is 70, since he looks so good and certainly acts like a younger person," she said. It is true McCartney, and Starr, for that matter, have continued to rock well into what could have been their retirement years. But Marinello feels they are just shining examples of a generation that refuses to be defined by conventional stereotypes. "Growing up in the '60s was such a different experience from what our parents and grandparents went through. I remember participating in the protests, whether it was for civil rights, saving the whales, ending the war or equality for women," she said. "What sobers me up is when I look back and start counting how many years ago all that took place. I think most boomers are young at heart. If I don't look in the mirror, I don't really think about my age. I still have a lot of living to do." That is a view shared by many boomers, a demographic of the post-World War II baby boom between the years 1946 and 1964. Many don't feel or even look their ages. Local musician Eddie Pickett is one boomer who thinks staying active is the best way to outsmart Father Time. In his case, Pickett says music has kept him young. "When I actually stop and take time to reflect on my life and actual age in years, it can be sobering. But in my mind, and especially in terms of my musical journey, I don't feel like I am really getting older. Â In fact, I actually become more excited to think of what my next musical experience will entail. That makes me feel young," he said. Â He feels the same is likely true for McCartney. "When I think of his age, in terms of actual years, it is hard to believe. Where did time go? However, when I listen to his musical talent and his timeless tunes, I lose sense of time. The music never stops. It continues on and still keeps growing," Pickett said. It can be argued the power of musical creativity can stave off the aging process. Many musicians, even very wealthy rockers like members of the Rolling Stones, the Who and Aerosmith, have chosen to continue to live in the spotlight rather than fade into obscurity. Pickett can understand that. He feels music helps to reinvigorate both performers and fans. "The whole lifestyle of creating, performing, self expression, must have a positive impact on your life and spirituality. Audiences are typically younger at larger venues and the exuberance of the crowd has to have an impact on the performer," he said. "The crowds are also dotted with baby boomers - who have quite possibly never grown up. Â The atmosphere relating to music is refreshing and rejuvenating - downright rejoicing. How could it not make one feel young at heart?" Sharon Proudfoot, a younger boomer, is another who rarely dwells on her numerical age. But McCartney's recent birthday did force her to remember it. "It's hard for me to think of him as 70 because my parents are in their 70s. I listen to Beatles' and Paul McCartney & Wings' music all of the time. I guess, unless I am playing it myself, I am finding it on an oldies station. That should give me a clue," she said. Staying engaged and active, like McCartney, has helped many of the baby boomer generation stay fit - both physically and mentally. It's something Proudfoot says she sees a lot in the Golden Isles. "We have so many retirees or people who have left big-city life for resort-community life. They're active and involved. Our community is fortunate to have these folks," she said. And it's something she tries to do herself by connecting with youngsters. "I teach preschool Sunday School and work with children and youth at my church, First Baptist Church St. Simons Island, and they definitely keep me young - forcing me to keep up with their interests and language," she said. Staying busy and active could be the trick that's keeping the children of the '60s so hip. And it's something Sir Paul McCartney has done with his trademark style and grace. "His music is timeless and I think it's helping him stay that way, too," Proudfoot said.


Paying Tribute to the Beatles

Artists inspired for Beatles tribute
Date September 29, 2011
Section(s) Our Town
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
Lois Henry remembers that electric night in 1964 when the Beatles debuted on the Ed Sullivan Show. Ever since, she's been an avid fan. "I think that we liked their long hair and the fact that our parents didn't like their long hair," she said. When Henry had children of her own, she shared the love of the group with them. "My children have always been music fans and especially Beatles' fans. I really like that," she said. There are many families with the same story. The Fab Four has continued to captivate audiences of various ages throughout the decades. In fact, it's this interest that still surrounds the band that intrigued members of the Golden Isles Arts and Humanities Association. Many of its members are just as fascinated with the group. That's why it decided to kick off the 2011-2012 Performing Arts Series with a big fete honoring the Lads from Liverpool. There will be an art exhibit, titled the "Magical Mystery Tour," featuring works of artists inspired by the Beatles. When the association put out a call for artists months ago, Henry couldn't resist. The owner of Color Me Happy in downtown Brunswick created a plate with her interpretation of John Lennon's self portrait along with her favorite quote. "It's my favorite John Lennon quote but also just my overall favorite - 'life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans,'" she said. "So I wrote that on the plate." Like Henry, Ian Kaszans couldn't wait to create something for the show. "My dad was a big Beatles fan, so I can remember the upbeat music throughout my childhood," he said. "As an artist, I am inspired by different opportunities to create images. The 'Magical Mystery Tour' exhibit allowed me to focus on the era and message of the Beatles, and to create three different ideas in three different mediums." Kaszans has submitted an illustration, a mixed media wood carving and a watercolor painting. For all three, Kaszans was able to create bold images with plenty of 1960s-esque inspiration. In addition to Henry and Kaszans, the exhibit will feature an eclectic array of more than 30 artistic interpretations by artists of all ages. Rob Nixon expects a huge variety. "Local artist Anne Goodstein submitted a collage based on the song 'She's Leaving Home' from the Sgt. Peppers album, and her company, H2O Creative Group, is doing a photo reminiscent of the Abbey Road cover," Nixon said. "Painter Lanny Brewster has created a landscape inspired by 'Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds.' Athens-based musician Rob McMaken with the group Dromedary, which has played at the Ritz and elsewhere in Brunswick a number of times, contributed a photo montage of his 2-year-old son Finnegan, who one day put together an impromptu shrine to the Beatles in his room." There will be 10 to 15 pieces from the art class at Brunswick High School, as well. In fact, Nixon himself felt compelled to get in on the exhibit. He created a mock-up of a paperback book that is a takeoff on the song "Paperback Writer" referencing different Beatles songs, either in lyrics or titles. The exhibit is not the only way GIAHA is paying homage to the biggest band of all time. On Oct. 7, the same night as the gallery opening, the group will play host to the tribute band Yesterday. The response has big huge, he said. "We've been getting a lot of calls and drop-ins for tickets, even before publicity has gotten out there very widely. So word of mouth has already caught on big. It looks like this is going to be a very popular show, so we're advising people to get their tickets early," he said. That's because the staying power of the Beatles will likely bring in a huge crowd eager to celebrate the band's legacy. "The Beatles remain the most influential and best-known group of all time, and their appeal cuts across generations. People who were around in the '60s still love them, and there have been new generations since then who love the music and everything the Beatles represented," Nixon said. "It's not just nostalgia - it's music that is still very much alive and fresh for people all over the world." Check it out * Beatles Night in downtown Brunswick will begin with an opening reception for the Magical Mystery Tour art exhibit from 5 to 7 p.m. Oct. 7 at the Ritz Theatre, 1530 Newcastle St., Brunswick. The pieces will be on display from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Thursday and Friday and from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday through Oct. 29. Admission to the exhibit is free. * The celebration continues with Yesterday: A Tribute to The Beatles at 8 p.m. Oct. 7 at the Ritz. Tickets are $15 to $25 adults and $10-$20 seniors, depending on member status and date of purchase. For those 18 and under tickets are $5. For more information or to purchase tickets, call 262-6934 or visit www.goldenislesarts.org.


Will you Still Need Me, Will you Still Feed Me?

When I'm 64
Date September 15, 2010
Section(s) Generations
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
Paul McCartney was 15 years old when he started playing around with the music and lyrics to the Beatles' hit "When I'm Sixty-Four." It was meant to be a salute to his musician father (who was actually only 54 when the song was written) and his 1920s-era cabaret style. The younger "narrator" in the song envisions an idyllic life growing old with his love. He seeks a long-term promise of commitment and wants reassurance that she will still "need him" when he's 64. When McCartney penned those now iconic verses more than four decades ago, 64 seemed far away and a distant expectation. But time has a way of changing things. McCartney, himself, is now 68, and even though he's led a charmed life, it certainly hasn't been perfect. He lost his first wife, Linda, to cancer. Two of his Beatles band mates have died, one violently. He went through a messy divorce from Heather Mills a few years back. Of course, he still has plenty of money and fame. But it just goes to show that life is never predictable. Even all the wealth in the world can't guarantee happiness. Like McCartney, others who grew up with the song are reaching their 64th years. The oldest of the baby boomers, who were 21 years old when the Beatles released "When I'm Sixty-Four" in 1967 on their "Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band" album, this year are, in fact, 64. Like the former Beatle himself, many have taken twists and turns on the road of life. Now they have a different take on the classic tune than they did when they were younger. Gary Share, owner of City Music is not quite 64, but he is a self-proclaimed Beatles fanatic. The song has a special meaning for him now. "I remember when Paul McCartney turned 64. I thought that it was pretty cool. He's still singing that song. I think it's cool that he's still singing that song. I'm sure when he wrote it, he never thought he'd be singing it at that age," Share said. He's also noticed that his view on the song has changed, too. There is one line in particular that strikes him differently: "Grandchildren on your knee." "It's neat the way your views change on things. When, in the song, he's talking about having the grandchildren on your knee ... I've got seven grandchildren now and one on the way," he said. "That's become more important to me. Those are the real gifts in life, much more important than things. Things change as you get older." Lanny Grammar, who teaches drums and percussion, feels the same. His daughter will have his first grandchild in the spring. He thinks that the song is a timeless testament to the aging process. "It really is timeless and it transcends all the decades. It's still a great song and a great message. I mean, let's face it, 'will you still need me when I'm 64?'" Doug Lampkin's views on the song have changed since he first heard it in 1967. "I was 17 or 18 when it came out, and I was living in Virginia. It was a hip place to be. Virginia Beach was one of the hippest places on the East Coast," he said. "I was playing in a rock band, so that song had some weight on me. At the time, I honestly didn't think I'd live that long." Lampkin and his wife Patrice own Murphy's Tavern on St. Simons Island. Now he is 62 and will reach the milestone in just two years. "It was more light-hearted when I was younger. I loved the song, but I never related to it back then," he said. "I can definitely relate to it a lot more now. It gives you a nostalgic look back now." Think about it Some lyrics of "When I'm Sixty-Four" to ponder: * "When I get older losing my hair,/Many years from now./Will you still be sending me a Valentine/Birthday greetings bottle of wine." * "... Will you still need me, will you still feed me,/When I'm sixty-four." * "You'll be older too,/And if you say the word,/I could stay with you." * "... We shall scrimp and save/Grandchildren on your knee."


Seniors Face Uncertain Future

Facing an uncertain future
Date March 24, 2010
Section(s) Generations
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
Like millions of others (or about 25 percent of the nation's population), she is in foreign territory. "My parents never worried that Medicare or Social Security would not be there for them when they reached the age of 65 and older. That's all I think about," she said. Davis is also concerned about her children and grandchildren. "My father always said that each generation would see a brighter future than the one before. Today that is not true. I worry terribly for my children and grandchildren. The debts that have been placed on them by our government are enormous," Davis said. There is also the trouble of retirement funds for the boomers themselves. Many of those persons born between 1946 and 1964 are hoping to exit the work force in the near future. But a recession-sparked volatile economy has left Davis questioning whether she and her peers will be able to retire. "There is little return on the money that we saved for our future and the future of our children. Instead of being able to enjoy retirement and the remaining years of our life, we will be living frugally to make sure we will not become a burden on our children. Right now, it looks as if our children's generation will be swapping diapers for Depends. What a legacy," she said. But it is possible to retire in a difficult financial climate. Mike and Joy Elliott have recently done it. Of course, it took a lot of work. "Joy and I planned our retirement and saved before the economy went bad. We were hurt during the initial downturn of the stock market. However, we have recovered as the market has recovered," Mike Eliliott said. "We did not do something stupid like pull all our money out. We had some big losses that will never recover, such as Lehman Brothers. We have worked hard to be debt free." But the Elliots have definitely noticed the effect the economy is having on other baby boomers. "Many will be working much longer, which will continue to hurt younger earners and cause the economy to remain stagnate. Older workers will not be buying goods. They will be eliminating debt. They must recover the value lost in the (stock) market," he said. "They will save whatever is not required for subsistence or debt reduction. If their plan was to have a big house and use real estate appreciation for their savings, they will not retire for many years." Boomers across the nation are doing just that. Ed Van Herik, a spokesperson for the American Association of Retired Persons, said the organization is seeing a large number of boomers holding off on retirement or re-entering the work force. "Retirement investments have suffered heavily, although some have seen it come back. It was a significant amount (of money) that was lost," he said. "All of the elements came together to create a series of situations that caused a number of baby boomers to postpone retirement or rethink what retirement means. "It is not uncommon today to hear people say they'll be working longer or taking a look at other options, like working a part-time job."


Remembering the First Passover

Passover
Date March 23, 2013
Section(s) Religion
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
"This is where you put the matzah. There is a separate plate for the matzah," she said, gesturing to a square plate. "And on this plate, you have a boiled egg, a lamb bone, haroseth which is apple and nuts, bitter herbs, horseradish." She continued listing the items as she moved around the plate, naming each item. "Everything has its place and it's all symbolic," Simpson said. It's all part of the Seder (which means "order" in Hebrew) service which accompanies one of the most important days in Judaism - Passover. Beginning Monday, Simpson and Jews around the world will mark the week-long celebration which commemorates the Hebrews exodus out of Egypt. It will begin at sundown, with the Passover Seder. For Simpson and other members of Temple Beth Tefiloh in Brunswick, the meal will be a time to reflect on the story of their ancestors. The Seder is a ritual performed by a community or by generations of a family. Simpson says that a visiting rabbi, Rabbi Marshal Klaven, and student rabbi Matt Zerwekh, representatives of the Southern Institute of Jewish Life, will conduct the service when they arrive in Brunswick as a park of their Passover pilgrimage. "They are going throughout the South, visiting temples that don't have a resident rabbi," she said. "So this year, we will have a community seder." During the service, they will continue the practice that has been a tradition dating back thousands of years. And the items involved in the service help to underscore the history and trials of the Hebrew people. Simpson says everything used - from the matzah or unleven bread to the parsley or bitter herbs - has a meaning. Each item is used to reinforce the story of Moses and the Exodus. Approximately 3,300 years ago, as told in the first 15 chapters of the Book of Exodus, Moses was a prince among the Egyptians after being rescued from the Nile by a princess. He was really the son of a Hebrew slave girl who placed him in a basket, sending him downstream and hopefully to a better life. Once Moses grew up, he observed the harsh treatment of the Hebrews under Egyptian rule and learned of his true origin. Then, Moses decided to join the Hebrew slaves. God favored Moses and chose him to lead the Hebrews out of bondage. God sent nine plagues on the land of Egypt. When the Pharaoh still refused to let the Hebrews leave, God sent the 10th plague - the death of the first born son of all Egyptians. To avoid falling victim to the Angel of Death, God commanded Moses and the Hebrews to slaughter and eat a roasted paschal lamb which symbolizes the Passover sacrifice. God also instructed the Hebrews to spread the blood of the paschal lamb on the door posts and on the beam above the door of their houses. This was a signal to the angels to pass over the Hebrews' homes. Since then, Jews have marked this event at the Passover Seder. For the first half of the Seder, each participant will only need a plate and a wine glass. At the head of the table is a Seder plate containing various symbolic foods that will be eaten or pointed out during the course of the Seder. Other parts of the meal include dishes of salt water used to represent tears of the Hebrews. Each member also has a Haggadah, a small book explaining the course of the dinner. Candles are also used and a door is commonly left open to welcome in the prophet Elijah. All of these aspects, Simpson says, help to reinforce the important story of faith. "It gives us a chance every year to honor our history and remember where we came from," she said. * Lifestyle Editor Lindsey Adkison writes about lifestyle topics. Contact her at ladkison@thebrunswicknews.com, on Facebook or at 265-8320, ext. 316. Breakout: What's on a seder plate? * Maror and Chazeret: two types of bitter herbs, symbolizing the bitterness and harshness of the slavery. For maror, many people use freshly grated horseradish or whole horseradish root. Chazeret is typically romaine lettuce, whose roots are bitter-tasting. * Charoset: This is sweet, brown, pebbly paste of fruits and nuts, representing the mortar used by the Jewish slaves to build the storehouses of Egypt. * Karpas: A vegetable other than bitter herbs, usually parsley but sometimes something such as celery or cooked potato. * Zeroa: A roasted lamb or goat bone, symbolizing the korban Pesach (Pesach sacrifice), which was a lamb's blood used during the 10th plague. * Beitzah: A hard boiled egg, symbolizing the korban chagigah (festival sacrifice) that was offered in the Temple in Jerusalem and was then eaten as part of the meal on Seder night.


What to do When Tragedy Strikes

What to do when tragedy strikes
Date March 27, 2013
Section(s) Generations
Byline By LINDSEY ADKISON The Brunswick News
The murder of 13-month-old Antonio Santiago and wounding of his mother, Sherry West, in what she says was a robbery attempt on a residential street in Brunswick, have left many mothers and fathers at a loss for words. Allyn Robb understands. As a licensed professional counselor at Emerald Isle Counseling on St. Simons Island, he knows that adults across the Golden Isles are trying to cope with their own feelings as well as allaying their children's fears. "Many of us are experiencing grief and sorrow after the shock of the death. The tragic shootings (local and elsewhere) have brought many issues to the forefront: gun control, school safety, mental illness and the daily tragedy of thousands of children around the world who die every day from violence, child abuse, neglect and hunger," Robb said. "The common reaction is the mind-numbing senselessness of such an act and trying to determine a cause ... when actually there is not cause. Intrusive and distressing thoughts can be common to both (adults and children)." Parents must find a way to work through their feelings, while helping their little ones do the same. The best way to do this, Robb says, is to stay calm. "Realize, first, that your own anger will not help as you begin to interact with your child. Seek to be calm, especially when kids are asking questions repeatedly. Tell the kids the exact story, based on facts, not assumptions." Mary Malcom, a bereavement counselor at Hospice of the Golden Isles in Glynn County, agrees. She also says this may be the proper time to open a discussion about death with children. "If you have not taken the time to talk about death with your child, start now. If your child has not known a child or family member who has died in a tragic way, start by talking about a family member or friend who died in a less tragic way," she said. "Think about the losses you experienced when you were the age of the child. Talk about what that loss was like for you, how you felt and how the adults around you reacted to the death. Tell the child what you hope they learn about death. Explain how birth and death are a part of life." Malcom also suggests keeping the conversations based in reality. "If the child is frightened by the recent violence, do not promise them that nothing will ever happen to them. Promise that you will work hard to be as safe as possible and will teach them how to resolve conflicts peacefully, when possible, and how to protect yourself when confronted by a person who means you harm," she said. Another important step is for parents to listen to their children. With the widespread coverage of the shooting in Brunswick, many children have heard about the murder, either from their parents, the media or from friends at school. Robb says that letting children talk about what they are hearing and allowing them to share their fears is a big step in the right direction. "Help the kids to identify the feelings they may be experiencing: anger, fear, rage, guilt, helplessness, frustration, detachment, nightmares. Use play therapy, if needed. Many good sources and materials can be found online," he said. But one thing that everyone, regardless of age, can do is invest some time giving back. These small acts of kindness can add up to make a big difference. Not only will it help the community as a whole, Robb says, it can also help diffuse the tension and anger one feels inside. "We should ask ourselves: How can we lift ourselves up from the fear, sadness and negativity? What can we, as individuals, do to make a difference?" he said. Malcom seconds that. She feels that positive involvement helps both young and old overcome a tragedy. "Get involved in neighborhood watch programs and community education. Don't pretend that violence doesn't happen in our community," Malcom said. "Teach your children and model behavior that shows that it is possible to handle anger and fear in positive ways. Know what to do if confronted by a person who is threatening." * Lifestyle Editor Lindsey Adkison writes about lifestyle topics. Contact her at ladkison@thebrunswicknews.com, on Facebook or at 265-8320, ext. 316. Overcome tragedy Allyn Robb, a licensed professional counselor at Emerald Isle Counseling on St. Simons Island, suggests one way to prevent tragedy from becoming overwhelming is to direct feelings and energies toward positive activities. Among ways to make the sun shine a little brighter in dark days are: * Do a random act of kindness for others. It can be anything from buying a stranger a cup of coffee to delivering food to a food bank, like FaithWorks food bank Sparrows Nest or Second Harvest, both in Brunswick. * Light a candle and say a prayer, even at home, in memory of those who have suffered and their loved ones. * Send thank-you notes to first responders for what they do to help people year-round. * Make or listen to music to express your emotions -- whether it be sorrow, love or joy. * Thank the teachers of your children and grandchildren, nieces or nephews for their support of the kids in your life. * Make a donation to United Way or another fund to support services to the families and community. * Dedicate a service at your place of worship to send love and support to those who are suffering from mental illness and violence. * It may be therapeutic for children to draw a picture or write a letter to the children who have died sending them good wishes. * Donate books for children or to a local classroom or school library * Help kids feel secure, cozy and ready to learn through Project Night Night -- which creates overnight bags for homeless kids in shelters. * Hug the children in your life and tell them you love them ... often. * Contact a homeless shelter, children's center, pediatric hospital or other program that supports children in need and ask how you can help.